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Furthermore, I thought that having tea or coffee with a new male friend would mean nothing because how could tea or coffee be anything but harmless?
Now, this type does not describe all Turkish men, because I have met some really great male friends while in Turkey.
Therefore, while a lot of the bad press about typical Turkish men centers around jealousy and persistence, it is a two way street—with a misunderstanding of both sides’ social norms and cultures.
Oh my goodness, I wish this question were reversed. I have LOTS of answers for that and perhaps some are commonly shared amongst both sexes.
That being said, here are three things I have learned about typical Turkish men: If you are casually asked to have coffee or tea, and politely decline, that may stop them—for a few minutes.
Even if you haven’t tried to give them extra attention, some take even simple eye contact, a small laugh at a joke, or just the fact that you are alive as an acceptance to their marriage proposal.
Now in America and in the UK, jealousy is a green monster that most people have a strong distaste for.
Here in Turkey, if you are not jealous of whom your partner speaks to, looks at, or hangs out with, it is the equivalent of raising a small flag that states, “I don’t love him/her.” It also doesn’t matter how many times you try and explain the cultural difference—they won’t change their minds.
Sometimes I come across as initiating, while really I’m just trying to be myself.Not all of these traits or experiences are only a result of Turkish-ness.Some of the stories that I have heard have been due to women beginning the flirtation themselves, and some men have a view of all Western women as being the same as women in movies.The personality traits of a gentleman, smooth talker, romantic, and extreme flirt are all wrapped together to give you the typical Turkish man.At first encounter you will be charmed, wooed, and certainly enchanted by his “going-out-of-their-way” hospitality and attention. Some men have ulterior motives, and some will definitely get you into trouble.