Dating right after divorce
You may have spent several decades building up your nest egg and you don’t want to jeopardize your future security by mixing finances with an irresponsible partner. Too many people will dodge the fact that they have young children, worrying that it will drive potential dates away.This means you have to be honest and clear—and expect the same of the person you’re dating—even if it’s hard.“Got kids? But it’s better to know if someone isn’t ready to deal with kids right at the beginning— If you don’t have children yet and you know you absolutely do or do not want them in the future, you also need to be clear about that up front.“Take the time to figure out what is truly important to you—you may be surprised at who your ideal partner is now,” she says.
The ink may be dry on your divorce papers, but that doesn’t mean you’ve completely moved on.
Don't let well-meaning friends pressure you into dating before you’re ready, she adds.
No, this isn’t some prudish warning or an encouragement to play games.
Of course, that's understandable, but if you can’t stop talking or thinking about your ex—whether you’re praising them “You have to take the time to heal, let go of resentments, and come to a healthy emotional place before you can be open to a new relationship,” she explains.
Be patient with yourself and take all the time you need.