Dating white men vs black men
Steven upon hearing the date and time, immediately made reservations in my Bulls name at a fine hotel with a large King Sized bed and our home preparations began.The day of our date, Steven took me to the salon, and spa and then out to a late lunch. She was a chatty and congenial Aussie, with a distinctive no-bullshit edge. And a number of biracial celebrities — including Alicia Keys, Drake, Halle Berry, and Wentworth Miller — were born to white mothers and black fathers.Most importantly on a Friday night, she was a straight woman in gay bar who wasn’t playing the I’m-such-a-fabulous-fag-hag card while taking up way more space than necessary. I have a theory about white women and black men, and it goes a little something like this.Hurt feelings, disappointment, and excitement placed my hubby and I into a rollercoaster of emotions, but finally we found a serious Bull who not only wanted me but wanted to guide us through this first monumental step.We had our first conversations and emails out of the way, had our lunch date Two days earlier and were now preparing for the final step.This night was no exception but I was warm with anticipation.
She must have read my mind when she made the disclaimer about finding white men attractive, too. She was a “chocolate queen,” but she was open to other flavors. But from a distance, I’ve noticed that when a straight white woman dates a straight black guy, it’s less likely to be part of a pattern, her were TV’s first interracial married couple, and they were played by Franklin Cover, a white actor, and Roxie Roker, a black actress who was also married to a white man offscreen (TV producer Sy Kravitz, rocker Lenny’s dad).
That might be why women are less likely than men to stick to a physical “type.” What my friend said made a lot of sense, but even if I was inclined to concur, I knew that it didn’t make women any more likely to be “color blind” than men.
(“Color blind,” by the way, is a pretty meaningless mental trait that actually applies to no-one.)I knew the woman I was talking to probably never would have been having this conversation with a white person.
Clearly I was first and foremost a black man to her… She probably wouldn’t have been having the conversation with a straight black guy either.
As pick-up talk goes, it wasn’t even remotely promising. Maybe she wanted me to know that she had done well.