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Step Parenting – From Frustration to Love by Scott Trick Almost a year ago I went from being single to married with two step kids. Frustration One of the frustrations a step parent can experience is the fact that the step child does not know how to act in public with his or her new step parent.
For example, when at home everyone gets along and does activities together, but in public the child may ignore the step parent and keep a distance.
The much touted idea that women peak sexually in their 30s and men in their teens does not enter into it -- most of these couples are beyond both those age periods.
But what about the notion that men are "hard-wired" to seek a smooth-faced, curvy receptacle for reproduction and thus are drawn to younger women?
It would be tempting to say, “because they can”, wouldn’t it? As noted in this Time Magazine article, modern-day men of power – Donald Trump, Bill Clinton, Eliot Spitzer, John Edwards, John Ensign, JFK, FDR, and most recently, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Dominique Strauss-Kahn – are noted for their serial wives and philandering.
No need to get started on the rock stars and athletes who fit the same profile. Three obvious things: Power, money and opportunity, which means access to women and considerable travel.“Members of royal families are born into a world of indulgence and entitlement, and the princelings who grow up that way may never have to develop the emotional musculature that will allow them to show self-restraint.
Though hardly a scientific study, the research surfaced three myths such couples hear every time: Winter is upbeat about the younger generations. "All they can do to get a woman is dangle their Porsche keys." As you peel back the decades, though, the men get "cooler," she says.
For their part, the men like the sophistication and life success of their older mates, she explains."Humans are relatively flexible species," Michael R.Cunningham, Ph D, a psychologist in the department of communications at the University of Louisville, tells Web MD. You can override a lot of biology in pursuit of other goals." Interestingly, Cunningham did an unpublished study of 60 women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, who were shown pictures of men aged to those decades. We should marry people within two years of our age."The women," he says, "were more interested in men their own age or older." As for the men, he says: "I guess it could be nice not to hang around a ditz with no knowledge of music or something like that." "We have strong 'shoulds' on ways of partnering up," Kathryn Elliott, Ph D, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, explains to Web MD. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds." The key to making older women/younger man relationships work, Elliott says, is to match what she calls voltages."Choose someone who is your voltage type -- has the same level of intensity about life.